Without Goodbye

A Spiritual Journey Transcending Grief


After the sudden death of her husband, the author discovered the understanding that widows tend to receive; The Western world is not at all prepared to deal with something as certain as death.

Our culture only prepares for life. Death and grief, on the other hand are completely ignored. No one has taught us how to treat a person who has suffered an important loss. Many well-intentioned but hurtful things are said this way, this is not because people don’t care about your pain, but because most of them do not know how to behave around grief.

When you first lose your spouse, you have no idea of what to expect either. Your whole life has turned around, sometimes without warning. Most likely, no one explained what you were about to encounter.
This book tries to show you what to expect after the death of a spouse. It also pretends to be a reminder that grief doesn’t need to involve negativity.

But most of all, the author hopes her book will help you transform the thoughts that are keeping you anchored in the past. Why re-inventing yourself is so important.

She hopes this book will give some much needed understanding to the widowed as well as to their family and friends.


Review by Ed Vos:


In her book Fleur descibes the proces of griev she is going through after the very sudden dead of her husband. The older we become, the more we have to deal with the loss of our beloved ones. Also with the misunderstanding and the fear people often have to talk about the death. We also have to deal with the well meant, but painfull clichés like: "Live goes on" and "Time heals all wounds", and more of such general sayings.

The author writes of course about her personal feelings, but shows a great insight in the mysteries of live, and how death is an essential part of it.
She doesn't hesitate to show her spiritual knowledge, and  - How difficult it may be too - starting to build a new live. A new live in which the memories of the past are integrated in the new, and newly arosen situation.

The bok certainly isn't a reflection of the occurences only, but at the same time a guide to explore the deeper values of life itself, going in to them on the deepest level and making them your own! I recommend this book warmly to everyone who has to deal with a similar loss.

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